So I have this idea for two girls that ultimately are going to get into a relationship. One of them is proudly gay and open about her feelings from the start, cracking jokes and sly compliments about the other one all the time and constantly making her uncomfortable. She finds it enjoyable to mess with the other, and is attracted to her, but doesn't take things too seriously.

This other girl is logic-over-emotion and is slightly annoyed by this, and is heterosexual (as far she is aware). She tends to dismiss these jokes. But over the story, I want her to end up liking the first one back and have them do some things together. The idea is that it's a slow burn thing - First girl wears down the second girl until she gets a bit of a soft spot for her teasing, and then suddenly BOOM - they kiss. It's a sudden realization for the second girl, but I want it to be clear that the affection has developed over getting to know this person.

This story would most likely be in first person and the reader would get to experience events from both girls' POV.

So I guess my question is: How does one convey a character warming up to/developing an attraction to another character when that character doesn't realize it themselves?

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    Have you seen Frozen? Literally the point of the movie is that "True Love" doesn't mean "Romantic Love". – hszmv Jan 16 '20 at 19:12
  • Yeah I know that. These people are strangers that are forced into tough scenarios that push them to be friends. One of them likes the other. Eventually, that person likes them back. But they still have the "True Love" friendship aspect ALONG with the attraction. I'm just trying to build a relationship aspect without one of the characters realizing it – Tasch Jan 16 '20 at 21:02
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    I encourage you to have only one girl tell her story from the first person point of view and find other ways to reveal the feelings of the other girl, such as having her have a conversation with someone else, or through some other mechanism. I generally view stories that switch between first person narration by multiple people as being a very lazy form of story telling. – Itsme2003 Jan 17 '20 at 7:43
  • Itsme2003 that's true. I see how that could be perceived as lazy. I've been hoping to use multiple POV's anyway, so I'll keep my mind on high-alert to avoid bad things. Thanks for bringing that to my attention – Tasch Jan 17 '20 at 15:28
  • @Itsme2003 What about 'as a personal artistic choice by the author'? – DM_with_secrets Jul 23 '20 at 14:59

I would say you need some tragedies; they don't have to be severe. The gay girl gets dates and they go badly, she needs a shoulder to cry on and her friend supplies that. I wouldn't turn that into a kiss or anything, just a soft spot for her friend. She needs to build up some sympathy for her friend, and grow to see nothing wrong with her friend's homosexuality (and thus her own, when the time comes).

Love attractions typically consist of three elements in real life. The first two are the basis of non-sexual friendship as well:

1) Similarity attracts. I am friends with people that like the same music, the same movies, the same books, the same games, the same classes. They give us something we mutually enjoy, and enhance the experience. Not only that, but if you and I like the same music, then you can share what you find, I can share what I find, and we are both better off, hearing more of the music we like. That's synergy. And affection is built by shared experiences.

2) Opposites attract. Although similarities are generally necessary, beyond the similarities are ways we are different, in good ways. I'd generally make one good at something the other is not, and vice versa. More synergy; together we can be better at life than the sum of what we can do separately; because suddenly the "team" is good at something I was not good at alone, and vice versa for my friend.

3) Physical sexual attraction. The first two are good ways to form strong friendships, but this is necessary for romantic love.

Fortunately, you have (3) already, the gay girl is physically attracted to the logic girl. Now I'm presuming the logic girl is actually homosexual, not bi or hetero.

So gay girl can fall in love with her friend, and her friend can actually be in love with her but mistake it for platonic love.

But gay girl, after a series of disastrous dates, finally confesses that she thinks she is blowing them up herself, because the dates aren't logic girl. And that is truly who she loves. Her gaydar went haywire, she thought there was a spark there, but if there is no hope, she needs to move on. To break up.

It's too painful to be just friends, and she'll never have a relationship with somebody in love with her if all she ever does is wish they were someone else.

Let the logic girl make the first move. It is the absence of her friend (and the loss of those synergies from (1) and (2)) that makes her review their relationship, and realize she actually IS in love with her. That she isn't attracted to men. So she finds her friend, and tells her that her gaydar wasn't wrong, and kisses her.

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    Amadeus this is a great answer thank you so much. I love the three elements - I'll work with those. My idea is that the gay girl is 100% homosexual and the logic girl is ultimately bi. This girl is what shows her she isn't straight. Right now I have a loose scene where they get into a fight and the logic girl ends up getting in the gay girl's face, super angry. But that anger tension is ultimately sexual tension, as she kisses her. I agree with you that she should make the first move. Maybe I should have the gay girl give up though... that's an interesting idea – Tasch Jan 16 '20 at 21:56

Your first girl is funny and sly but you can make her have a more serious side. To make the other girl realize that she, not all fun and games but if you don't want to change her too much you could have a sweet caring side. like sweet tender moments, where they both get along with each other.

Sorry if this isn't helpful.

  • No, it is helpful. Thanks fox girl 27565 – Tasch Jan 17 '20 at 1:47

One thing you can do is make them be friends first. Any good relationship is developed on friendship. I had a friend who learned that the hard way... back to the point. You have a number options here, like the friend idea. Girl #2 could have been attracted to someone before, and have a flashback about how hardly she was rejected and that would lead to the all logic no emotion version of herself. #2 could also just not have loved anyone before, so the feeling could be unsettling for her. Anyway, I guess my point is she can be affected by past experiences!

  • Nice. I like your thought about how backstory shapes people. I was actually going to make girl #2 kind of the GOAL person for all the guys at her high school (Queen Bee, when she thought she was hetero), and so she has been in the relationship game for most of her life. But something in her past (maybe it could be a hard rejection, or family stuff) caused her to become afraid of getting close to people, so she puts a b**** facade so she never gets anything deep, claiming she's too good or doesn't have the patience, but really she's just scared. The feeling probably will be unsettling for her. – Tasch Jan 18 '20 at 20:37

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