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I always want to start writing and maintain my diary, in which I want to write what I am doing daily. But I am confused about what to include, how to start, and where to start.

Please guide me or give me some practical tips so that I can start writing my diary.

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There are only three rules for your motivation:

It has to be personal.

If this isn’t something you really want, you won’t want to work for it. Don’t decide to do the glass of wine if you could care less about the glass of wine. Choose a reward that works for you, something you really desire, guilt-free.

It has to be something you can enjoy immediately after writing.

This is crucial, because you want to attach your reward firmly to your effort and build association. Your mind will subconsciously connect those two together. It’ll start thinking, “Well, I don’t want to write, but I really do want to go watch the next episode of House, so let’s get this over with.”

It has to be something you won’t do otherwise.

If you make your reward something you indulge in all the time, it won’t be special. It won’t be a motivator. Sure, you could have that fine glass of Shiraz after you write – or you could have a glass without writing, just like you did yesterday. Useless. Your reward can be something you used to do intermittently, but once you decide on it as a reward, don’t do it at any other time than post-writing.

That’s it.

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    I really like your 3rd point... very very good... I never thought of it, but may reward myself from now on! Thanks Jan 3 '18 at 18:37
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Write your sales pitch to Yourself.

For a diary or anything else that requires a long or daily commitment (like writing a novel or exercise or jokes), I would start by writing WHY you want to do it.

What is your motivation?

What do you hope to gain from it?

Try to come up with the reason or two that you find most compelling for doing this thing, spending your time on it.

I am awake an average of eighteen hours a day and sleep an average of six. If I spend 30 minutes writing almost every day, that will be around 180 hours a year, likely an entire month of full time work (at 40 hours per week).

So I ask myself, if I could, would I devote a month of full time work to gain the benefit I anticipate from writing 30 minutes every day? What can I get for that, that will motivate me?

Write that down, a sales pitch to yourself that you can read in about thirty seconds, (about 100 words), to remind yourself WHY you want to do this every day. Then commit to that reading, every day.

Put it on the mirror so you see it when you brush your teeth. Put it on the wall across from the toilet. Put it on the coffee pot. Hang it above your computer screen. Find a way to make it unavoidable, and commit to reading it instead of ignoring it.

If it stops selling you, decide why, and revise it to motivate yourself, or at least decide why this is a waste of your time, why you are not getting what you had hoped to get from the exercise. Nothing says you have to continue wasting your time forever, and people change what they want out of life as their life progresses, and as they learn new things about the world, and other people, and themselves. That is especially true of the young, but can also be very true throughout life, all the way to the old and retired.

It is our human nature to have big goals that will take much time and work to accomplish, but to walk through our lives responding to the urges, demands and fun whims of the hour, thus never accomplishing those big goals. The big goals generally demand sacrificing many hours you could have been enjoying yourself instead.

Write your best sales pitch to convince yourself that sacrifice is going to be worth it in the long run, when your short-term urges are to watch some rerun episode of your favorite TV show for the third time, or surf the net to find something funny.

Then put that sales pitch where you can't miss it, and commit to reading it every day, even if for some reason you haven't followed through in days. Don't just ignore it, if you aren't executing, make a clear decision why, write that decision down to memorialize it and cement it, and abandon the project because you have truly changed what you want out of life.

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I know that some people struggle with consistently writing in a diary, so one thing that might help is choosing a time of day and setting it aside as "diary-writing time". Set a daily alarm on your phone, if that helps. Something that makes it just part of your routine, even if there are some days where you don't write much at all. It will help develop the practice into a habit.

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Decide it is a priority

I do not keep a diary, but I keep a blog, which I think is a digital equivalent. The biggest thing for me to keep my blog, JP On Gaming, for eight years now has been do decide to make it a priority, to spent the time to write and add stuff to it.

When you decide it is important and a priority for you, you will find the time and the content.

What you will write will change over the years and does not always have to be nice, clever, polished, exciting, or incredibly long, but you must spend the time to do it. Whether that is before you leave in the morning or before going to be at night, it must rank in your priorities.

That said, there are times when it will be moved up and down on the priority lists. Life happens. But once those emergencies end, you have to return to it. Sometimes it will be easy, sometimes fun, sometimes hard, sometimes painful, but you will create and write everything.

Hmmm... that's the same advice I was given about how to become an efficient writer...

Good luck

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