So where are the forums, the groups, the social networks in which writers dwell in harmony and happy collaboration?
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Last time I was there, Forward Motion for Writers was a thriving, helpful group. Life issues stole the time which I used to spend there or I would still be an active participant. My favorite feature was the genre specific critique circles where I could securely share small section of my writing with a consistent group of similar writers and trade critique services.